Hooked

S E X!

What do you think of when you read, hear or think the word sex?

One night stands?

Falling in Love?

How many notches in my belt can I have?

Life Time Relationship?

Friends with benefits?

Family & Marriage?

Of course there are many things one would think of in this day and age of anything goes. Our society constantly tells us moving from partner to partner is OK and won't hurt you as long as you have protected sex. No big deal, don't worry, getting pregnant or sexual diseases? We can provide you with solutions. The emotional hassles of untangling a relationship? We have solutions for that to. But at what cost to ourselves, love ones, children and society?

Those of us who have children, grandchildren or friends who are living with all the pressures to grow up quickly or to conform to the status quo, need to be concerned about the suddle lies that are continually portrayed in the media, movies, books, and even in our schools. We send our children out in to the big bad world without the proper information to give them the tools to make wise decisions.

The book "Hooked" by Joe S. McIlhaney, JR.,MD and Freda McKissic Bush, MD, is a scientific book that is fairly easy to read. It gives a values neutral reason for abstaining from casual sex. As quoted in the book, "We are born to form attachments...our brains are physically wired to develop in tandem with another's, through emotional communication, beginning before words are even spoken. " When we go from one casual relationship to another we damage our brains natural bonding ability. It is apparent in our society that to diminish our guilt from destructive behavior we have robbed ourselves of long lasting fulfilling relationships. We have believed the lie!

This has been a difficult review for me to write because I so much want to convey the importance of what "HOOKED" has to say and what it can mean to all of you and your loved ones. It is a must read for everyone at any age, it can be the beginning of healing for some and a stop sign for others. Parents it is essential to get this message to our kids before they cross that bridge and can never return. Their brains aren't fully developed till they are in their mid twenties, so it is difficult for them to make wise relational decisions.

We were meant to be monogamous!

May the Lord Bless you and keep you from evil,
Barbara